We Are All Connected

Just Doing My Job - Saving Nicole and her unborn Baby Girl

Part 2

The 2 person Malibu Homeless Outreach Team are the first responders when it comes to Malibu homeless. The 2 person team is dedicated to helping get homeless off the street and getting them connected with housing and wrap around services. The Team has been funded by many generous community members and most recently by the Malibu City Council who approved $76,000 to fund the 2 positions at The People Concern on June 26, 2017.

To date, team has helped 5 homeless Malibu residents move into permanent housing, 8 have moved into interim housing and 1 is receiving inpatient substance abuse treatment. According to the MTFH website, as of May, 51 homeless Malibu residents have now “enrolled” as clients (meaning they have consented to services, are involved in ongoing case management, and have completed a goal plan). A total of 63 individuals are now considered “engaged” with the Outreach Team.)

Nevertheless, the Outreach Team was unable to help Nicole – who was now pregnant and still living in a tent next to Pepperdine University.

On Mother’s Day, Sunday May 14, 2017, after going to Mass and Ollo’s for breakfast with my children, I thought it might be nice to wish Nicole a happy Mother’s day and to surprise her with some nice pan cakes and fruit.

As we turned into the path leading up to the area next to Pepperdine where she was camping in a tent we saw Nicole. She was pushing an empty shopping cart. Her red hair was unkempt , her skin was dirty, her clothes were ripped and he belly was bulging. I waved to her and said, “Hi Nicole. We brought you some breakfast. Happy Mother’s day!” Before I reached her, she looked down and shouted – “No. Go away.” She couldn’t look me in the eyes. My kids appeared to be afraid.

I got back in our car and drove away. My son pleaded that I stay away from her because she looked like she could harm someone or even herself, and he feared for my safety. I couldn’t help but feel sad, for both Nicole and her unborn baby. I wanted to try to help, but deep down I knew Nicole was the only one who could help both herself and the baby. I knew then, that without a miracle, Nicole and her baby could end up dead in the near future.

On Thursday June 29, 2017, I stopped by Malibu Connect day to again see if I could be of service. I ran into Nancy Rosenquist, a long-time Malibu resident, who was now happily housed in Marina Del Rey, and Carol Moss the beloved founder of CART and the Reverend Paul Elder who was still washing the feet of many homeless.

Just as the Connect event came to a close, one additional woman came to the foot washing station. I could tell that Reverend Paul Elder was exhausted from working and serving all day so I asked if I could help wash the feet of this final client. Reverend Paul Elder smiled and said – yes.

As he homeless client took off her shoes, I saw about 50 or so red boils on her feet that appeared to be red and oozing. I put on some protective gloves and covered her feet with soap and water. I asked her if her feet hurt and she said just a little and that they were much better than before. I was next to Linda Gibbs a local Point Dume mom who had been working for hours washing and massaging feet and asked her if she had any type of medicine to help. She jumped to her feet and took out tea tree oil and began to help.

Reverend Paul Elder suggested I try to speak to the doctor to see if we could get some medicine for her condition. I was able to catch the doctor as he was walking out to the parking lot and asked if he could come take a look. The kind Doctor came back and examined her feet. He then reached in his oversized back pack some anti-fungal medicine which I helped put on. Luckily, there were lots of new clean socks so she was able to put her new socks on over her medicine.

As I was cleaning up the station and speaking with Reverend Elder I asked if had heard what happened to Nicole and her baby.

I was in shock to learn that on June 4, 2017, Nicole’s water broke as she was walking along PCH near the Animal Hospital. Someone called 911 and Firestation 88 answered the call. According to first hand accounts, Nicole originally resisted getting any help and asked to be left alone – asserting her rights under the Constitution to be free.

Veteran Firefighter Gene Rink got on his knees, and looked Nicole in the eyes and explained – with all due respect this isn’t about you – it’s about doing what’s best for the baby now. By some miracle, Nicole listened to Gene and got in the ambulance. As it turned out, her baby was breached and both Nicole and her baby could have died but for the valiant efforts of Malibu Station 88 Firefighter Gene Rink. I went to directly to Firestation 88 to thank Gene in person.

I don’t know what will happen with that baby girl or Nicole, but I do know that every day I notice more and more homeless in Malibu. Indeed, the LA County Homeless count shows there is a 25% increase in LA County.

I don’t have the answers, but I do believe we are all connected.

If you want to learn what you can do, visit www.malibucart.org. You can also give homeless the Outreach Team phone number (310)460-2638 or they can email malibuoutreach@opcc.net.

Another Mother Day Manifesto

A Mom’s Manifesto to Occupy Malibu NOW

This Mother’s Day don’t just send a card.  Why not create a Manifesto and do something your mother would be proud of?

I dare you to show your Mom and the world what you are made of.

Malibu is an incredible place – just ask Miley Cyrus who recently released her newest video about living in Malibu (Malibu and Miley).

Malibu is sacred and filled with the wonders of nature.  We have thousands of acres of parkland abutting Malibu – Busch and Bonsal trails and the National Park Service, Malibu Creek State Park, Charmlee Park.  Indeed, Since the 1978 act of Congress created the Santa Monica Mountains National Recreation Area, Malibu is only of the only communities located entirely within the national park according to Surfside News reporter Suzanne Gouldiman.

Malibu is also a community that helps each other.  During the fires, we check on each other.  At the farmer’s market on Sunday mornings we say hi.  When we walk our dogs in our neighborhood or along Zuma Beach we know which dogs will bark and which ones just walk on by. When our kids join AYSO soccer or Little League, or enter the Tiny Tot Olympics our learn about community, team work, showing up, playing your heart out and winning and losing with grace and dignity.

Last week, the Malibu City Council our Malibu City Council voted 3-2 to shut the door on soccer fields, baseball fields, a skate park and/or any other type of field that could be used to bring our community closer together.

All our kids and community have is YOU.

2017 is the year of Occupy Malibu.  A local socio-political movement whose primary goal is to advocate community based facilities in Malibu that will serve the people’s wants and needs to be connected.

The first Occupy Malibu Manifesto will demand that the City Council reconsider it’s 3-2 decision to not consider putting playing fields and a skate park for our community at either Bluffs Park and/or recently purchased Trancas Fields.

Will you join this Mom’s Manifesto, or will we just send cards and flowers again and call it just another Mother’s Day?

If you join us:

1) Contact Malibu City Council:

Skylar Peak – Mayor Phone: 310-924-9881 or email SPeak@malibucity.org

Rick Mullin – Mayor Pro Tem Phone: 310-457-7502 RMullen@malibucity.org

Zuma Jay – Council Member Phone: 310-456-8044 or email JWagner@malibucity.org
2) Sign the Petition – https://www.change.org/p/malibu-city-council-we-need-to-explore-soccer-and-ball-fields-and-community-needs-at-bluffs-and-trancas-park?recruiter=6624630&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=share_for_starters_page&utm_term=des-lg-google-no_msg

3) Spread the word to make Malibu more community friendly for all.  Occupy Malibu will be meeting soon to organize next steps. If you are interested please join our Facebook page for updates.

Thanks for sharing, caring, and doing what you can when you can to make Malibu better tomorrow than it is today.  




The Day After – A Birthday Note to my Dear Daughter

November 10, 2016

Happy 17th Birthday my darling daughter!

When you were born, I saw your divine soul shine through those almond shaped deep blue green eyes, and I thanked God for the gift of you.  You are my personal hero  – who teaches me daily the meaning of love, devotion and dedication.

Thank you for the 17 sensational years we have shared.  The many laughs, thrills, slippy slides, aces, loses, wins, falls, the gold medal moments, burning the candle at both ends, relaxing with a smoothie, hazardous hair days and the success and failures along the way have, like a beautiful work of art made you – – – the girl we all love.

I will never forget the summer after your first year of pre-school when the coach asked what nick name they wanted for their team, after some of the boys suggested, “Monster Truck”, “Hot Lava Lizards”, “Dinosaur Snakes” you looked at the boys, held up your chin up high and said, “Butterfly!”

As you elegantly dare to dream and to fly with the grace of a butterfly, beautiful, elegant and peaceful.  I pray that you will follow your heart and listen to that little voice which, like a compass, will always steer you true north.

As you follow your road of life, you may encounter some Doubting Toms and Debbie Downers who may tell you your not good enough, or not whatever enough.  I hope you will first pray, then have the courage to check in with YOUR voice, heart and passion and fight to stay the course and follow the best path for you.

Yesterday was 11/9 – which is possibly the worst day since 9/11, but today is 11/10.  It is your day.  It is a day that lifts me because I know our planet’s future, although it may appear to be bleak now, will be bright because you will not allow others to be bullied.  You will stand up for racial, economic and social equality.  You will be the light that inspires us all to be the best we can be.  I have faith in your heart, in your soul and in your kindness.   You are the epitome of intelligence, toughness, strength, calm, but most importantly, you are a blessing to all you meet.

Thank you – – – for making our souls and this planet blossom.  I love you to the moon, and back infinity much and may your next year and chapter be an exciting adventure filled with joy, laughter and love – plus you’ll get to officially vote!

Happy Birthday sweet heart – – – celebrate and remember what Albert Einstein said – – “Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”  The best is yet to be!

Why Wait to Fill Out Page 8?

Watching the first, second and third Presidential debates made me really sad.

Thank God for Saturday Night Live skits of the debates – they made me laugh instead of cry about what is happening in the Presidential election.

Before my brain goes further into the abyss, I try to refocus and think about our local Malibu City Council elections.

My official mail in ballot is now red white and blank all over – like a work of art just waiting for me to start filling in those ovals with dark blue or black ink only.

Although I have known for some time who I will vote for in the National and Statewide elections, I am still undecided as to how I will vote in our local election – where 3 seats are up.

I have met and/or am familiar with all of the candidates.  I attended the Malibu Times and Democratic Club debates. I was thoroughly impressed with all of the candidates and even contributed to three of the six campaigns.    Overall, all seem to be nice people with good manners and are kind souls, but I am reluctant to cast my ballot just at this moment in time.  Why?

I want to vote for role models who will be independent and inclusive, not bullies.  My vote, like a grade in school, must be earned through hard work, dedication and actions that will make Malibu better for all over the course of the next four years.

Over the course of the next few days, I will continue to notice the little things. Who is putting signs up illegally? Who is taking signs down? How are the people running the campaigns treating each other? Are all running healthy campaigns that my children can learn from and look up to?

I hope that everyone in Malibu will join me in watching.  Will the candidates and their campaigns be respectful and make Malibu better or not?

Will the Rio Olympics Restart Our Collective Hearts?

Our family’s preparation for our trip to the upcoming Rio Olympics are underway. We have made the trek to REI. We bought mosquito repellent hooded jackets and pants. We learned that we can wash regular clothes with chemicals filled with DEET to ward off blood thirsty insects.

As I begin to fill my washing machine with loads of clean clothes and DEET, my mind wonders and my mother instincts kick in. Should we even go to the Olympics? Will the Olympic’s bring the world together in sport and harmony for 15 days, or will it be a catastrophe as predicted by so many news outlets, most recently by a July 1st New York Times article?

Every time we open a newspaper or watch the news we hear about a world in ruin – the Zika virus, Military Coups, Britain exiting EU, Orlando, Pokemon Go accidents, Nice – – the list goes on.

The Olympics open in less than two weeks on August 5. What kind of experience awaits the world? Will the world continue to spiral in demise or will it rise?

Even if we don’t have political leaders or national events that inspire us, thank God for artists and athletes.

Katy Perry just released the official NBC song “Rise” and hopefully, like the paddles used to send an electric shock to help restore the heart’s rhythm, the song and the Rio Olympics will restart and reset our collective hearts.

“This is a song that’s been brewing inside me for years, that has finally come to the surface. I was inspired to finish it now, rather than save it for my next album, because now more than ever, there is a need for our world to unite,” Katy said in a statement. “I know that together we can rise above the fear – in our country, and around the world. I can’t think of a better example than the Olympic athletes, as they gather in Rio with their strength and fearlessness, to remind us how we ALL can come together, with the resolve to be the best we can be. I hope this song can inspire us to heal, unite, and rise together. I am honored that NBC Olympics has chosen to use it as an anthem before and during the Rio Games.”

I remain hopeful and I pray – – – Rio will reveal a world on the rise – filled with sportsmanship, courage, peace and love.

I look forward to bringing reports from Rio in the coming weeks. Stay tuned. . .

Katy Perry – Rise (NBC Olympics video)


Mom Up – Mother’s Day Manifestos not Cards

This Mother’s Day don’t send a card.

Why not create a Manifesto and do something your mother would be proud of.   Show your Mom and the world what you are made of.

Have you evaluated what’s really important in life, or are you too busy working, texting and/or worried about getting to your next task to think about it?  In 2001, the tragedy of 9-11 gave our nation an opportunity to reevaluate what’s important in life. 15 years later we now witness ISIS, the climate changing, Ebola and other crisis.

Working part-time should be a viable option for all men and women, but is it an option at your workplace? Affordable and day care should be in the same sentence, but are they? Really?

Instead of being rewarded for raising resilient loved children, many of us are demoted or driven out of the working world for putting our Nations’ most precious national treasure as our first priority – our children.

The vast majority of woman and men in America can’t afford to quit work and aren’t given the opportunity and to work part-time because they make “minimum” wage, but not a “living” wage.

Is it time to work with Employers and Congress to find ways we can forge a new path for the future, or are Employers and Congress a barrier to change? Perhaps it’s time for a Regime change?

Will our Nation ever put our children first? Our kids don’t have high paid lobbyist working to pass legislation protecting their interests in Washington DC, and our kids don’t have politicians who are “in their pocket” because they donate millions of dollars to a campaign.

All our kids have is YOU.  2015 is the year of the Mother’s Day Manifesto.

Will we do something to make our planet better for our children?

Will we heed to advice of Mother Theresea and, “Go home and love our families”?

While we are home (whether it be for a couple of hours a day or longer), will we work to  make our towns better for our children and all children?

Will you Mom-Up and take action to improve educational opportunities and libraries, clean our environment, and increase arts and culture in our own communities?

Why not create a company and be that Employer who offers fair wages and flexible work schedules?

Why not run for local office, state office or dare I say higher office and be a voice for our children?

What’s holding you back, what’s holding us back?  Time to Mom Up and get it done.


What Can We Do to Protect LA from Dangerous Paparazzi?

Paparazzi Law Charts – Citizen’s Guide

Like bees that pollinate flowers, paparazzi sometimes have a symbiotic relationship with celebrities. However, paparazzi, like bees, can also be known to sting and hurt on occasion.

Yesterday, an innocent person was killed on Pacific Coast Highway in a terrible accident involving a local celebrity.   Whether the Paparazzi caused or contributed to the incident has yet to be determined.  Nevertheless, the pictures published on a well-known website show that at least one paparazzi was on the scene – before, during and possible after the “accident”.  This paparazzi photographed the entire tragic accident as it occurred.  Coincidence or contemplated?  We may never know.

What do we know?  LA and Malibu are magnets for paparazzi.  Many paparazzi in Malibu do their job within the law.  They are respectful of the people they photograph and the people who live and visit our town; however, there seems to be a new breed of paparazzi who act with reckless disregard for the safety of residents, visitors, and children alike.

When I was Mayor back in 2008, I received reports that this new breed of paparazzi: engage in high-speed car chases on PCH, our main street, travel in packs, run red lights, make unsafe, and at times, illegal u-turns in the pursuit of their subject.  This reckless behavior extends into other areas of our community – our residential streets, elementary schools, parks, local shopping centers, and beaches.  A blind pursuit for commercial gain can place people and children in harm’s way.

On July 31, 2008, the LA Regional Paparazzi Task Force convened it’s first meeting at LA City Hall. The Task Force included local cities such as: Los Angeles, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Calabasas and West Hollywood along with the LA County Sheriff to consider what, if anything, can be done to insure all people and especially our children are respected and protected. The LA Regional Task Force received comments from individuals, law enforcement and legal experts. When panelists were asked if they would be willing to follow through and go to court to pursue paparazzi issues, a task that would take time out of their busy schedules, the panelist testifying seemed reluctant to commit. On that same day, LA Police Chief William Bratton commented that the paparazzi have become less of a problem thanks to celebrities such as Britney Spears, Paris Hilton and Lindsey Lohan leading more moderate lifestyles.

On September 29, 2008, the Task Force convened in Malibu and heard testimony from a local elementary school principal which attested to the problem when paparazzi visited schools especially during drop off and pick up.  The task force produced sample ordinances which could be enacted in the future pertaining to school safety zones.  The Task Force recommended that a Citizen’s Guide be made available to the public. This Guide outlined current laws that could be enforced and is attached at the top of this blog and is entitled Paparazzi Law Charts – Citizen’s Guide.

Just this past Friday when I was picking up my children from a school bus stop, a paparazzi was there in a car driving, taking pictures and literally stalking a local celebrity Dad who was picking up his very young child.  My kids were startled by this stalker and we talked about the incident afterward.  What can they do if they are thrown in the middle of a show down?  I told them to get out their phones and video tape the assault so they could have a record of the behavior.

Little did I know, only a day later a fatal accident would occur which may or may not have involved paparazzi stalking a star.

Should we all just go about our business and say nothing more about this?  Or, is it time that we all start talking about this issue and think about what we can do to protect the people in our community and the world.   What will you do to keep our kids and community safe?   Please share your thoughts and join in this dialogue.

Soccer – Can We End the Silence on Violence? Stand up and get kicked off the field!

Girls Gone Wild

Soccer season is in full swing – literally!

My daughter, a soccer player who was out of the game due to a mild concussion injury, wanted to support her team in a game against a school in LA.

We arrived at the game just around half-time because of LA traffic. My daughter ran out to join her teammates in the halftime circle on the field and forgot to bring a jacket. It was a nippy night, so I got a jacket out of the trunk of the car.

After I parked the car, I walked over towards the team to bring my daughter her jacket and couldn’t help but hear the opposing team coach screaming at her team. I overheard her say things like hurt them and hit them and started to wonder what in the world are these coaches saying to our girls? The screaming coach also accused our team of doing anything to win like throwing elbows and kicking players.

I stood there shocked and in disbelief. What is the price of victory? Violence?

When I saw another coach leave the huddle of hatred and walk over towards the 50 yard line to go into the score box, I asked him his name and told him he was a witness to the violent attitude permeating from the screaming coach.

As I walked back across the field, I passed the Referee’s who were in the middle of the field still waiting for half-time to be over. I told them I was concerned about the safety of the players had and asked where I could file a complaint. They told me to speak to the Athletic Director (“AD”). I then left the field and tried to find the AD. I was told he was there earlier, but no one knew whether he was still there.

The game commenced and I started watching.

A few minutes later, our team coach came over to me and asked me to leave the field because the opposing coach had complained about me. I was again in disbelief. I was threatened and told to leave the game simply because I wanted to file a complaint about a coach perpetuating violence?

I told our coach that I would leave and then walked away. On my way out, I finally found the AD told him what I had overheard.

As I left the game, I thought about what I had witnessed on the field this past season. After one game in Santa Monica, one of our players showed me and her mother the black and blue marks on her legs that she had gotten on the field that day. I also remembered the time my 11 year old was punched in the face by another 11 year old club soccer player. That player was red carded and asked to leave the game.

Now I was asked to leave the game? My crime, overhearing a screaming coach and wanting to stop the circle of violence.

On my way out, I made a vow. The silence on violence must end. Our world needs everyone to speak up, share their stories and be safe.

If you witness a Coach screaming at players and urging violence what will you do?

November 4, 2014 – Not Just Another Sunny Day in LA.

On November 4, 2014, you have the power to decide who will be LA County’s 3rd District Supervisor – either Bobby Shriver or Shiela Kuehl.

Why should you care?

For the 1st time in 20 years, this is a competitive race and the new Supervisor will oversee your tax money – a $26 billion budget. The new Supervisor can put LA on a course to prosperity and fiscal fitness, or poverty with outrageous government spending.

For the past year, I have had the honor of listening to, and debating against and with both Shriver and Kuehl. I respect both for their dedication and service to our community whether it be locally or in Sacramento, but they have very different leadership qualities and qualifications.

Who will be able to reform County Government? We need reform in areas involving the department of children and welfare services, the Sheriff department, homeless, Veterans, those in custody, Campaign Finance, and Pensions to name a few.

Who will keep government spending in check?

Who will be able to best build and increase partnerships with Business and Non-Profits to promote economic recovery and provide public services?

Who will implement creative smart solutions with measurable results?
Do you want civility and professionalism in local government, or do you want a Supervisor who demeans or belittles local “part-time” office holders who try to make our communities better?

Do you want to elect someone who will encourage others to participate in democracy, or do you want a Supervisor who discourages and attempts to “scare” others from running for office?

Do want a Supervisor who will cut bureaucratic red tape and work to insure that jobs stays here in LA, or do you want a Supervisor that calls states like Nevada a “fool” for creating an environment friendly to businesses?

I want a Supervisor who will act independently, offer innovative solutions to complex problems, and who has a history of helping those in need.

I want smaller, smarter government, not big bullying government.

I believe Supervisor candidate Bobby Shriver will deliver not just good Government, but cutting edge Government. Shriver will make LA County a beacon of light for our State, our Country and our planet and put LA on a true-north course towards prosperity and progress, but he can’t win without YOU! Help make it a sunny day in LA and join me in voting for Bobby Shriver on November 4. Thank you for sharing, caring and voting!

Register to vote visit: http://registertovote.ca.gov/

To register to vote by mail visit: http://www.lavote.net/home/voting-elections/voting-options-information/vote-by-mail

Back to School – Back to Voting. Why your vote will matter on November 4, 2014.

Even though I lost the LA County primary election on June 3rd, I still haven’t lost my desire to help make LA County better tomorrow than it is today.

It’s easy to talk the talk, but who will walk the walk when it comes to investing in Children and Education?

While Bobby Shriver served as a local Councilmember and Mayor for the City of Santa Monica, he put money into education.  Unlike Sacramento, which cut funding to education, Bobby helped to secure at least $441 million dollars for local public schools — even during the Great Recession. This funding has made a world of difference in education for so many families and children.

Bobby voted for eight city budgets that gave $8 million dollars a year to public schools, including paying for a master lease for playgrounds could be used after school hours. In those same budgets, the city of Santa Monica included $37 million dollars a year for school-based and community programs for Santa Monica Public School students. In May 2009, Bobby also voted to approve $81 million dollars of redevelopment funds for the Santa Monica High School joint use.

Bobby also voted to place propositions on the ballot and the voters of Santa Monica voted to support giving half of the proceeds of an increased city sales tax of 1/2% to Santa Monica public schools. Prop YY is now averaging $7.5 million dollars per year directly to local schools.

Bobby listened to the local community and invested in children. He also put into these measures oversight and other protections to make the accounting publicly available. His smart local approach is what he will bring to the entire 3rd District as the next Supervisor.

87% of people in LA County didn’t bother to vote in the Primary election in June.

Now the question is, who will you be voting for on November 4 and why?

I will be voting for Bobby based on his record of service.  Will you be joining me?